I know – it’s been a few weeks. But, it’s ok. Life is to be lived. And, my baby won’t go the F to sleep on a regular basis (which is more thanks to the massive dose of prednisone she takes and hopefully not to my failings as a mother. We’ve started putting her down on her side, which has helped the situation)…
I decided to participate in Project Reverb 2014. It is a series of monthly prompts to give participants “a chance to think about how the month (and the year) is going and to project into the rest of the month (and the year).”
Last year was crazy, but it was more about waiting – for the baby to be born, for the nursery to be done, to not feel so huge and lost in my body, to be able to move and run and play with my dog.
This year is about actions – figuring out me as a mom, being in a new role at work and trying to define what that is and what I want to do, finding a way to exercise with an infant and a bum knee, just constant searching and redefining and moving forward because freezing in place is not an option – but, I want to make sure I’m just not madly moving through it all. I don’t want to miss it completely.
I’m a huge fan of the bloggers who run it (Kat, Sarah, and Meredith) – all 3 of them gave me wonderfully poignant and funny moments to read during my 2013-full of pregnancy, newborns, and trashy romance novels (one of my only pregnancy cravings).
Hopefully, this will give me some structure to my writing that is more me-focused, vs. the amount of writing I do focused on Bean for her Baby Book I’m so dreadfully behind on.
So, onto it:
Prompt: Routine | Have you started a new routine this January? Is this routine different from last year? Is it the result of a resolution or goal you’re working on? Tell us about your days. How do they flow? If you’d like, maybe give us a full “day in the life” or just some snippets.
My routine is so drastically different from last year – but, it’s supposed to be. That’s what babies do. But, when January rolled around, I began to reflect that I was trying to create routines (Bedtime routine for Bean, Dinner routine for B, get to bed early so B won’t be tired for his commute, cleaning routine, designated fetch time for Remy), but not for myself. I became that clichéd mom within 4 months of having a baby.
After this realization, I saw the need not to make resolutions or goals for the year (madness with a Baby and a House Hunt and just LIFE RIGHT NOW), but to make quarterly areas of self-care focus to make me happier and more fulfilled and more myself. It sounds selfish, but it’s helping me be better at all of those other routines. Q1 my focus is on budget, taking care of how I look (to take care of how I feel about how I look), decluttering, and eating real food.
An amalgamation of a weekday:
3:30 AM: Bean cries, but I get back on her side with the pacifier and she’s out again. #sleepismyfriend
4:30 AM: B’s alarm goes off; he gets up with Remy to get ready for work. Bean sleeps, so I do the same.
6:15 AM: B wakes me up when he leaves. I shower, do my makeup and hair, and get dressed while singing nonsense songs to a babbling, cribbed Bean.
7:00 AM: Feed Bean (who’s actually hungry!) and then play the prednisone game. As she’s learned to spit, we are both covered in it by the end.
7:30 AM: Wipe Bean down, change her, dress her and put her in the car seat to chill.
7:45 AM: Start my car (Oh, frozen New England winters) and take Remy out and chase him around the yard until he does his business. SO COLD!
8:00 AM: Drop Bean off in daycare and walk down to my desk; read blogs, TV recaps, and email while I eat a yogurt and Luna bar (with a Diet Coke)
8:30 AM: Get to the working – dive into eLearning, presentations, meetings, IM’s, etc.
11:30AM: Come up for air and walk down to visit Bean. Look at my Fitbit and see how far behind I am on my steps. Head out to the parking garage for a 15 minute catchup walk.,
12:00 PM: Lunch and a book.
12:30 PM: Back at it – spreadsheets and formulas and tracking, oh my!
3:00 PM: Go check in on Bean after naptime – she’s hanging in the exersaucer listening to a book (a multitasker at 5 months!). Realize I haven’t walked around since my last walk, so take the “long way” back to my desk by walking upstairs, through the caf, downstairs to my desk.
4:30 PM: Finish my day, go grab Bean, back to the car and home.
5:00 PM: Drag everyone and things into the house. Try to calm Remy’s immense excitement (and keep Bean napping). Leave the car seat by the back door and chase Remy through the snow in the backyard until I’m shivering.
5:30 PM: Get in my pajamas and get dinner (lemon & herb chicken and vegetables) in the oven; select the kitchen counters as my 1 thing to clean for this day.
6:00 PM: B gets home. Remy falls apart with love and Bean wakes up.
6:30 PM: B and I trade off eating dinner with feeding Bean and playing with Remy while catching up on our day.
7:00 PM: Bean’s bath time – splashing, squealing, and soaking wet me. Lay out her outfit for tomorrow (and wonder where all her socks seem to disappear to…)
7:30 PM: Bean goes down. Fetch it up with Remy while finishing dinner.
8:00 PM: Watch a few episodes of Veronica Mars on Netflix – we’re almost done with Season 3, just in time for the movie. Intermittently, go give Bean the pacifier, take the dog out, text, Facebook, Twitter, read, ZONE OUT.
10:00 PM: B does bottles while I prep my breakfast, lunch, and snacks for tomorrow.
10:30 PM: Wash my face, brush my teeth, foam roll.
10:50 PM: Take Remy out and get into bed. Fall asleep during a Good Eats rerun from the DVR or a Pioneer Woman episode. Dream of food and sleep.